Research tells us that using positive psychology with children is highly effective in building emotional stamina. Success builds success and children will always grow from the positive in their life. How do we feel as adults when our boss gives us affirmation. This is often a stimulus to feeling successful. SOMEONE VALUES ME!

Keeping a positive journal is highly effective. This is a book where you write positive statements about your child.

For example, “ Today, I loved the way you smiled at me”. This book then becomes a collection of positive memories. Simple concepts are all that is needed.

I recommend no more than one thought a day or even a few statements across the week. Children love going back over the book and reading the positive comments. This is especially helpful when they are having less happy times.

In counselling, we would call this narrative therapy, where we recognise that the written word is so valuable. I have used this method quite often in school and also my staff. Just imagine, we write beautiful thoughts on a birthday card. This is likened to receiving a birthday card more often! How many birthday cards do we keep over the years?