How difficult is it to find time for all the things you need to do? Of course it is difficult.

We live in a very busy world with time being the most precious commodity we can find.

This article is about establishing some quality ‘one on one time’ regularly with your child. This is not easy, especially if you have several children, but it is not impossible and just so necessary.

Consider the advantages:

Small doses of ‘one on one’ time together regularly can make an amazing difference in building wonderful, long term interpersonal relationships.

Your child will feel special. You can just talk about the uniqueness of the child and they can tell you their feelings which they alone own.

It demonstrates to the child that their uniqueness is special and you value it and want to focus on it.

The child realises that this time together will give them an occasion to be with their parent alone. Therefore, they may store up important things to say to them during this time.

Here are some suggestions to find that individual time with your child.

Discuss with the family the importance of spending individual time with each child. They may have their own ideas on how this is possible.
Put the information on the fridge so that you can refer to it regularly.
Check on the school timetable. There may be some better times to remove them from school for a few hours.
Attending sporting events is important but occasionally just take them yourself and spend time with them afterwards to talk about the game.
Write little notes to your child. Put them in their lunch box:

“Catch you tonight. Let’s talk after dinner.”

Are there any joint activities you can do together, such as a club, art classes etc.
When going to the shops for a quick purchase could just one child go with you?
Talk to them about the things you notice that are unique to that child. For example, their unique smile, sense of humor etc. It is about bringing out their individuality and that is what you love the most.

An important key to building relationships is to keep reminding the child that spending one on one time is important to you. It is amazing what you learn from just being together.

Small doses of ‘one on one’ time together regularly can make an amazing difference in building wonderful, long term interpersonal relationships.