When you make rules yourself to live by, you do become a much stronger, self-disciplined person. These rules generally reflect your values and the things in life that are important to you. When you have a clear and strong belief about how those rules are to be lived, people notice how important they are and respect your position. So too your children. If they see that you have strong beliefs and operate around rules that work for you, they are more inclined to accept some of the chores you set them. The more careless we are with rules, the greater propensity for our children to not take them seriously. Having said that, everything within reason. If you are too intense and rigid with those rules, your children will react to your intensity and move away mentally from the value you place in them.

Consider:

Keeping rules at home consistent and easily understood by children.

Your rules need to be balanced and not extreme if you are involving your children in them and expecting them to live by them. Always keep in mind that you are setting up those rules and how they affect everyone.
Consider that children are not self-disciplined adults and when you set rules for them, make them reasonable and within their grasp mentally and physically.
Be fair if you have family rules for all the children. Are they equitable and does the younger child need to be so involved as the older child?
Be clear about your rules. Make sure that you explain why they are important and the difference they make to everyone.

‘Everyone needs to take shoes off at the door. This means the floors don’t get scratched and are easier to clean.’

Here you are giving clear and logical reasons why the rule has value for everyone in the family. In this way you should get more compliance and less resistance when introducing rules.

Rules can and should adjust to suit the shifting nature of families. Regular family meetings about house rules are a good idea to keep everyone on the same page and to reiterate why they still have value.
Affirm your child when they do acknowledge the rules. Never take for granted that they see the same value in the rules. After all they are children.
When important rules are broken take care to discuss them carefully and listen to what your child has to say. It may mean that a slight adjustment to the rules may be in order. This means that you are listening to your child and understand their maturing needs. Without having this degree of flexibility as your child grows there will be less likelihood of full-blown resistance.
Remember you are teaching your child that rules strengthen your values and make you live more safely, comfortably and happier. People see you as a more disciplined person when you live by rules. Children need to see a rule as something that works and can have changes when needed. In this way they will see that rules can work for them.
Be open-minded. Understand that your child may never fully see the value in your rule. As they grow into an adult and start putting their own plans in place, they will reflect on the rules they lived by as a growing child and will want to discard some, adopt some and modify others. This is natural and to be expected. The last thing you want is your child having memories of being forced to fit into a set of rules that they didn’t understand or value. The happier they see you in your embodiment of rules, the clearer vison they will have of how rules can have value in their life strengthening them emotionally and mentally.

‘Children do learn what they live. Then they grow up to live what they learned’
-Dorothy Notte